10 SIGNS YOU are DATING A DOUCHEBAG

1) He talks about himself incessantly  
Everybody likes to talk about themselves.  It is human nature.  But does he ask how your day was only to have the conversation  turn back to him?  Pay attention.


2) He doesn't call when he says he will
This is a personal pet peeve.  If someone (doesn't matter if you are dating them or not) says that they are going to call you - they should call you.  Of course there are exceptions and if this happens once in a blue moon, don't jump down their throat.  But is this a constant issue?  It is disrespectful.  Bottom line - you are not a priority to that person.

3) He is ambiguous about your future
Here at I dated that douche I have read a lot of submissions and there are some common themes that keep resurfacing.  One of which is this:  In the beginning he said he wanted to get married, have kids and settle down and now he keeps avoiding these topics.  This happens a lot and in my opinion I think men say they want these things in the beginning to get the girl because it is what most girls want.  Men (douchebags rather)  know that this is what women want to hear.  Most girls would never get serious with a guy or for that matter even go on a second date if he said things like "I don't want children and don't think I want to get married".

4) He doesn't refer to you as his girlfriend
This may seem like an obvious one and it is.  But it has even happened to the girl writing this.  To be somewhat fair to myself my douchebag was really charismatic and was able to get away with A LOT. And like a lot of girls I have dated more than one. But after reading a lot of submissions - I realized that I have not been the only girl.  Think about it - if you are in public with him and he is not referring to you as his girlfriend with you there.  He sure as hell is not telling people he even has a girlfriend when you are not there.  This douche is the forever bachelor.  Let him be the forever bachelor - just not on your watch.

5) He lets you pay for him
I've mentioned this before and yes, this is another COMMON THEME here at I dated that douche that keeps popping up.  Do not pay a guy's way in this world.  It is a recipe for DISASTER.  He does not respect himself and he most definitely does not respect you.  Do not give him a loan either.  He can get one from a bank or his FAMILY.  If he can't get one from his family or a bank.  There is a good reason.

6) Your friends and family cannot stand him
Everyone has different family dynamics, but assuming that you like your family and value their opinion - listen to their opinion.  Also, listen to your friends.  Another common theme,  a lot of women losing friends because they have dated a douchebag and the friends don't stay in their lives because of it.

7)  You cry A LOT
Are you unhappy in this relationship?  Do you find yourself crying a lot?  Do you find yourself talking to others about your relationship problems constantly?  That is exhausting. For you and them.  You are wasting valuable energy.  And if you are not already - you will most likely end up depressed.   It is time for a reality check.

8)  He is HOT and COLD
I am sure there is a psychological term for this and if you know of it - please leave it in the messages - but this is how guys keep women trapped for sometimes years in relationships...  (and women, but I am a woman so of course I am writing from a woman's perspective).  Often, just when you are almost out the door, they are back in full force to get you to stay.  You deserve consistency.


9) You find yourself making excuses for him
This is self explanatory.  If you are doing this, you know you are doing this.  You need to stop.  Ask yourself:  Is this just making an excuse for his behavior? And this is how you are (in one way) playing a part in this toxic relationship.


10) Would you be proud to have a son like him?
Pretty self explanatory as well.  If not, then WHY are you dating him?